When is it proper to speak up and defend a person without getting in trouble? Do you wait for the right time or do you go at it immediately? And should you, to begin with, take up on a fight that’s not even yours? Here’s my take…when it’s an adults only issue, the best way to go is to keep mum and let them handle their own situation. Even if you’re itching, dying to speak your heart out, you’ll just have to keep it to yourself. Word of caution though, you’ll need lots of willpower and tons of patience to do this. Because when the bully continues to provoke, it will become increasingly difficult to hold back and not get involved. So how do I go about this then?
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I’m amazed at how some people can willingly pretend as if everything’s fine when clearly it’s not. People do it for a variety of reasons. I guess it’s because most people love to keep appearances because that’s what makes them look (and feel) good. Some people on the other hand, want to maintain status quo, fearful of rocking the boat. I don’t know how I fit in all of this. Do I suck it up and play along or do the exact opposite? I strongly feel the need to stay true to myself. I can’t pretend to like a person whom I truly detest. I can’t find it in my guts to smile and do small talk if I know this person will just stab me in the back. Frankly, I just don’t want to have anything to do with someone who’s not even worth my time and effort. Being civil, maybe I can do. But from its definition in dictionary.com, being civil is even an understatement.
—Synonyms
7, 8. respectful, deferential, gracious, complaisant, suave, affable, urbane, courtly. Civil, affable, courteous, polite all imply avoidance of rudeness toward others. Civil suggests a minimum of observance of social requirements. Affable suggests ease of approach and friendliness. Courteous implies positive, dignified, sincere, and thoughtful consideration for others. Polite implies habitual courtesy, arising from a consciousness of one's training and the demands of good manners.
So how do I go about this too?
Saturday, May 29, 2010
How?
Posted by clarisse at 2:50 PM
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